When we were young, we were asked by our family,
friends, and teachers…”What do you like to become?” “I like to become a doctor,
engineer, lawyer, piolet, teacher...” and so on…
But do you feel that’s what you really want to become?
We do know our decision keeps changing based on the influence of our family,
friends, relatives and so called ‘society’.
Research said 80 percent of the people do not like the
job they were doing. Why is that so?
What makes us incapable in deciding our own decisions
whether it’s our own career, money matters, and relationships...why?
When we look closer to our decisions we had made
before, its mostly out of decisions based out of our fear, our ego and the
influence of our family, friends, and the environment around us.
Fear: Most of the
parents may not recognize the importance of teaching their children based on
taking their own decisions and supporting those decisions. We do understand
parents are protective about their children in some aspect but at the end, your
child will face lot of regrets before he or she starts living. Instead, let your
children face ‘fear’ instead of protecting them from it. Give them an
opportunity to get out of the comfort zone. Be supportive about it, instead of
saying ‘No’. If you have any fears, push yourself to get rid of it. We have
many misunderstandings on our capabilities due to fear. Start analyzing where
did this fear come from? For example, John got stage fear. Maybe he got an
embarrassing moment when he was on the stage at the age of 4 or 5. And doesn’t want
to face the stage again. Only way he could get rid of the stage fear is going
out to stage... more. Trust me, fear just happens maybe like a 1 or 2 minute and
the rest is history if you overcome it.
Influences and pressure:
Decisions based on influences from others and pressure can mislead us in taking wrong decisions. If your intuition says something, follow it without second thought. It’s quite difficult to cope up in today’s competitive world but we need to
teach our children, friends, and family about the beauty of life and we need to cherish each moment instead of wasting our life with someone else’s
expectations, influences or pressure.
Ego: We may not feel
like promoting a person because we feel inferior in front of him or her, but
that person can help us internally to make the company goals successful. We may
work in a high paid job just to satisfy our ego or ego of our parents, but
we won't enjoy our work completely, leading to dissatisfaction and
regret. Most of our life decisions are based on ego. If our voices in our mind
can be quieten down through meditation, it will help us to touch our inner
being, and not our ‘ego’. Through meditation, we will become self-aware of our
decisions, whether we are taking advantage of someone else or improving life of
others. If we haven’t taken right decisions in our life, at the end we are the
ones who is going to suffer more, and not just us... but to others as well.
So, start changing the way you decide things in your
life now... because life is too short. At the end of the day it is you and only
you that you’re leading your life, no one else. As Tony Robbins said, “It is in
your decision that your destiny is shaped”…
Good one 😊👍🏻
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